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56-year-old Tom Junod thinks feminism makes 42-year-olds as “alluring” as 22-year-olds

July 14, 2014

My latest blog post for the Los Angeles Times (I’m in a forum so scroll down):

The real problem with Tom Junod’s article isn’t just that it gives new meaning to the saying “There’s no fool like an old fool.”It’s the message it conveys to women who may get the idea that they actually may still be as attractive in their early 40s as they were in their early 20s — and therefore they can safely put off for decades any serious thoughts about finding a suitable marriage partner, or even worse, ditch their bore of a husband because they can always find someone richer and better-looking out there, can’t they?

Junod singles out Sofia Vergara as his quintessential fabulous 42-year-old. Yes, she looks great. That’s because she’s in the top 1% of the world’s most beautiful women of any age. Most 42-year-old women don’t look like Vergara. They look, well, average, because they are average in the looks department. No matter how many Pilates they sweat through.

The Other Woman

Posted by Charlotte Allen


From → Fertility, Marriage, Men

  1. Lastango permalink

    Anyone with the stomach to google “woman, 50, invisible” can cut through all the BS and see what age 40+ women are up against.

    And the candle is burning at both ends… here’s a snip about the lack of men:


    My 20s slipped into my 30s and I watched my friends marrying off. Still, I never envied them — or not for very long anyway. The only inconvenience was the pool of single girls on whom I could rely to keep me amused into the early hours starting to diminish.

    What I never considered, though, was that one day men would stop coming along altogether. I really wish I’d known that once you’re in your late 30s, men are pretty thin on the ground. And once you’re in your 40s, it’s as though they’ve been wiped off the face of the Earth.

    A woman over 45 on an internet dating site is made to feel as welcome as a parking ticket. The sites may be full of single men in their 40s, but they sure aren’t looking to meet women of the same age!…

    And the fastest rising group of ‘aloners’ — 2.5 million — are people like me, who fall between the ages of 45 and 64 and live alone in our own properties with no spouse, partner or children.

    The figure represents a mind-blowing 50 per cent increase since the mid-Nineties. Materially well-off but emotionally bereft, we represent the loneliest generation ever known — and as a member of this fast-growing club, I have to say, it’s not a membership I look forward to renewing annually.

  2. May I note that they’re comparing themselves to women who have makeup specialists and so forth making sure they look their best for the camera; some of them without all that…

    Reminds me of the first time I met a model; pretty, but scary skinny(not ‘lean’ or ‘slim’, SKINNY) and not that much like she looked on camera. Not true for all of course, but for many.

  3. I am a male over 50 and every day without fail I get emails from women around the world who want to date and marry me. These women are almost all under 30. I don’t respond to any of the emails and yet they keep coming. I don’t think I am unusual in this experience, rather I think western feminism is very much out of touch with realities found around the world. In marriage, women trade beauty and femininity for a man’s willingness to provide for them and the children they have together. I would conjecture that as communication around the world continues to become easier, western women who do not settle down by their mid-twenties will find themselves competing for men in a truly global marketplace. This may not mean men will be valued more than today but we will certainly have more spinsters in western countries. I always treat 42 year old women with respect and courtesy.

  4. One further comment…
    Wars and civil unrest around the world are beginning to heat up again and women of all ages will expect healthy young men to sign up and die in military service to protect them. Childless women who have never tried to fulfill their traditional role of mother should not be surprised if young men are reticent to fulfill their traditional role of dying on command to keep women and society safe by serving in either the military or the police services. All of a sudden life may become much more serious than a mere frolic and banter.

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