Perv asks dad why he’s taking photos of his daughters; wimpy dad feels “upset,” walks away
Totally engaged with the scene in front of me, I jumped when a man came up beside me and said to my daughters: “I would be remiss if I didn’t ask if you were okay.”
At first none of us understood what he was talking about. His polite tone and tourist attire of shorts, polo shirt and baseball cap threw us off. It took me a moment to figure out what he meant, but then it hit me: He thought I might be exploiting the girls, taking questionable photos for one of those “Exotic Beauties Want to Meet You!” Web sites or something just as unseemly.
As I was telling my wife what had happened, I saw the man again, scanning the horizon with his binoculars. The more I thought about what he had said, the more upset I became. My wife and I, both white, adopted our two daughters in China when they were infants. Over the years, as a transracial family, we have often gotten strange looks and intrusive questions from strangers, but nothing like this. Yet part of me understood what he was seeing: Here was this middle-aged white guy taking lots of pictures of two beautiful, young Asian women.
I walked outside to where he was standing and calmly said: “Excuse me, sir, but you just embarrassed me in front of my children and strangers. And what you said was racist.”
The man didn’t seem at all fazed. He replied: “I work for the Department of Homeland Security. And let me give you some advice: You were standing there taking photos of them hugging for 15 minutes.”
He agreed to consider everything I had said. But he didn’t sound very sincere. When I had questions about his observations, he deflected them, hoping to manage my reaction with simple apologies, except they weren’t simple at all: He apologized; he criticized; and he apologized again.
There was nothing more I could say, nor did I need to hear any more explanations from him. I thought about asking for his business card or his name, but instead I just walked away, feeling exposed.
Gee, let’s see what’s wrong with this picture, so to speak:
First of all, do you believe for one minute that the guy with the binoculars snooping around this dad’s gorgeous teen daughters actually worked for the DHS? If so, I’ve got a bridge in Brooklyn….
Second, the dad doesn’t even ask to see the guy’s badge or ID! I sure would, if some stranger accused me of being a perv and claimed to work for law enforcement. He doesn’t even ask for the guy’s name!
Third, guess what: Even if the girls were total strangers, it’s not a crime to take other people’s pictures if you have their permission, and the fact that the girls were posing for the photos suggested that they’d given it.
Fourth, wimpo dad, instead of suggesting to this sex-obsessed busybody creep in the baseball cap that he might be showing up for work at the DHS with a shiner if he ever caught him within 10 feet of his daughters again, gets “upset.”
Oh, and he also says “racist.” He walks away “feeling exposed.”
Whatever happened to dads who actually tried to protect their daughters from perverts instead of whining to the Washington Post?
Posted by Charlotte Allen