“Healthy Masculinities Week”: “Be a man” are the “three most destructive” words in English
My latest blog post for the Independent Women’s Forum:
“One event featured a screening of the limited-release documentary The Mask You Live In, which blames ‘America’s narrow definition of masculinity’ for the deteriorating mental health of boys and men.
“’The three most destructive words that every man receives when he’s a boy is when he’s told to “be a man,”’ former NFL player Joe Ehrmann says in the film. Now a minister, Ehrmann spoke on an all-male panel in 2013 titled ‘Breaking the Male Code,’ which was organized by Vagina Monologues writer Eve Ensler.”
Yes, you read that right. “Be a man” are the three most destructive words in the English language.
Second most destructive set of words: “Man up”:
“Bill Savage, IFC vice president of recruitment, said he hates the term ‘man up’ or a phrase he claims is closely related, ‘don’t be a pussy.’ In contrast to stereotypes, ‘being emotional is manly in my opinion,’ Savage said.”
Also very bad: working out with weights.
“As evidence, Katz noted that G.I. Joe’s biceps have gotten larger over the years and that Arnold Schwarzenegger and Sylvester Stallone use bigger guns for their iconic roles as the Terminator and Rambo than did Humphrey Bogart in his 1930s and 1940s film roles.”
I might note that the Terminator was actually a robot, and Stallone wasn’t playing a barkeep or a private detective in his iconic films. BTW, couldn’t this Katz guy have come up with a movie example that wasn’t from the 1980s?
Posted by Charlotte Allen