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Rihanna’s Vanity Fair no-sex problem: she can’t find an alpha guy who’s not a Chris Brown

October 9, 2015

From my latest blog post for the Independent Women’s Forum:

Looking for an alpha in all the wrong places

Vanity Fair’s latest cover story features a sultry and elegant Rihanna modeling designer clothes and shoes (in one pic, just the shoes) as Annie Liebowitz photographs her in picturesquely decayed Fidel-o-centric Havana whose peeling walls and ancient automobiles make great backgrounds for photos if not exactly for real life.

There’s also an interview with Rihanna in which the Barbadian music bomb hands out some surprisingly traditionalist sex advice for a gal who’s willing to pose in only her Manolos and her tattoos:

“Despite all those rumors of sexual liaisons, Rihanna says her last real, official boyfriend was Chris Brown—when they briefly got back together three years after his arrest for assaulting her in 2009 ….

“Given that she’s supposed to be so freewheeling, can’t she just have sex for fun? ‘If I wanted to I would completely do that,’ she says. ‘I am going to do what makes me feel happy, what I feel like doing. But that would be empty for me; that to me is a hollow move. I would wake up the next day feeling like s—…'”


Rihanna is 27, and elsewhere in the interview she says she wants to have a child “so bad…eventually.” As an alpha woman loaded with beauty and accomplishments but dying to commit herself, she’s obviously looking for a man even more alpha than she is. This explains the Christ Brown debacle—and her amorous return to him even after he beat her face into meatloaf. Brown was an alpha in all the wrong ways, and Rihanna seems to have learned her lesson on that one. But now what?

High-achieving women in general have a tough time finding men who aren’t jerks or whingy betas, and high-achieving black women have the toughest time of all, given that statistics show that minority men lag far behind minority women in education and hence, income.

Read the whole thing here.

Posted by Charlotte Allen

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One Comment
  1. Lastango permalink

    Men have a viewpoint on some of these issues too. For instance, men are doing the math these days. Just like women always have, they’re asking “What’s in it for me?”

    All too often, the answer is: life-destroying legal, social and financial risk, coupled with an absence of visceral desire for women in their 30’s.

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