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“Healthy sexuality” parenting: Unlimited teen sexting plus explaining oral sex to 9-year-olds

December 22, 2015

From my latest blog post for the Independent Women’s Forum:

Ellen Friedrichs and kids: Not too young to learn all about oral sex?

I don’t have kids, which usually makes me feel sad–but then again, it means I don’t have to take advice from Ellen Friedrichs, parenting columnist for Everyday Feminism.

Friedrichs is also a professional “sex educator” (her resume includes a stint as public-programming director for San Francisco’s Museum of Sex (warning: NSFW!). She’s currently coordinator of the “health” department at St. Ann’s School, the famously avant-garde (and famously expensive) prep school in Brooklyn where the students don’t have to worry about grades because there aren’t any. As you might suspect with Friedrichs at the helm, the “health” classes at St. Ann’s are largely focused on…you guessed it: “sexuality.”

And so are Friedrich’s “parenting” columns. Here’s her latest one, titled “4 Easy Ways to Incorporate More Sex Positivity Into Your Parenting.”


“Most of the ways in which we talk about sex with children is in reproductive terms. From answering the ‘Where do babies come from?’ question to having a conversation about puberty, the link between sexuality and procreation is a constant one.


“Yet separating sex from reproduction can be hard to do. That’s because then you need to talk about desire, and pleasure, and as I did recently with my nine-year-old, things like oral sex.”

My nine-year-old? Oral sex?

Read the whole thing here.

Posted by Charlotte Allen
One Comment
  1. Lastango permalink

    I recently finished reading Theodore Dalrymple’s book “Life at the Bottom”. A fascinating work, it does a fine job of pointing out where we end up when the likes of Ellen Friedrichs are allowed to configure our culture.

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