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Merry Christmas from Salon: The story of Jesus’ birth is actually about “sex-positive”-shaming

December 28, 2015

Dec. 25 brings out the feminist crazy:

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Madonna and Child: “Sex-negative” subtext

 

The birth story of the baby Jesus is heartwarming and iconic—the promise of new life and new hope in a time of darkness. It has inspired centuries of maternal art and is the best loved of all Bible stories. It also has a darker subtext, especially for someone like me—the mother of two daughters.

In the story, an angel appears to a virgin girl, announcing that she will conceive a baby boy. Her fiancé Joseph decides to stick with her only because her baby bump is of divine origins. The author of Luke makes a point of telling us that he refrains from sex with her till after the baby Jesus is born. All of this emphasis on Mary’s sexual history, or rather lack thereof, sends a message that can be shaming and harmful: Only an unbedded, unsullied, unused female—a virgin—could be good enough to birth a perfect child, the son of God.

Girls who have sex are soiled. That may not be the first thing that comes to mind when we see a picture of Madonna and child or hear a Christmas carol, but the message is clear all the same, and the fact that it is subtext may make it all the more insidious for young women.

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How can sex-positive people who also enjoy Christmas affirm what it means to be fully female, including the physical pleasures of the female body, not merely its reproductive potential? How can all of us teach our daughters that their bodies are wholesome and beautiful, whether or not they have been molested or assaulted or have had sexual experiences of their own choosing? How can we help to break down the harmful virgin-whore dichotomy, with the only alternative being asexual motherhood?

I dunno, but I do know that if I had daughters, they’d enjoy Christmas more if they didn’t have to be around “sex-positive people.”

Posted by Charlotte Allen

 

 

 

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One Comment
  1. Lastango permalink

    “How can all of us teach our daughters that their bodies are wholesome and beautiful…?”

    Easy. Subcontract it to me.

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