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xoJane writer: I used to deliver babies, but now I’m an abortionist and nobody likes me! Wah!

I suffer so other women don’t have to.

Nicole

My brilliant abortionist career

I love delivering babies. I never wanted to give it up. And yet I’ve found myself in a place where I had to make a choice no obstetrician/gynecologist (ob/gyn) should have to make: provide care for women who deliver babies, or provide care for women who need abortions, just not both.

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Unfortunately, I have found this is not always easy to do. I encountered obstacles to learning about abortion in medical school, to getting trained in how to provide abortions in residency, and to integrating abortion care into my ob/gyn practice.

Unfortunately, working at a federally qualified health clinic in the rural Southeast to repay a med school scholarship obligation after residency again restricted the care I could provide. At a clinic receiving federal funds, I was ‘gagged’ and not permitted (or so I was told) to discuss, let alone perform, abortions. 

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At the same time, I recognize and admit that dealing with the stigma and emotional toll attached to being an abortion provider is not always easy. A mentor once described the emotions of providing abortion care as a means of relieving a woman’s burden of suffering. What I took him to mean is that by providing abortion care I am helping my patient get on the other side of this difficult experience with dignity and support. I am suffering, if you will, to enable her to suffer less.

In addition to being emotionally charged work, abortion is of course highly politicized and stigmatized. My decision in recent years to provide and teach abortion care has cost me professional opportunities. On a personal level, my family and friends have thankfully not yet been targeted. My name and image do feature prominently on an anti-choice website so I have real concerns about this.

It’s hard out there for an abortionist.

Posted by Charlotte Allen

Feminists spin like yo-yos explaining away Ellen Pao’s $16 million gender litigation fail

Ellen Pao vs. Silicon Valley, the New York Times feminist spin:

Pao flanked by her lawyers: What happened to my $16 million?

Just as Anita Hill once helped shine a light on overt sexual harassment, Ms. Pao, in suing Kleiner Perkins Caufield & Byers, might have done the same for subtle sexism. The trial was riveting in part because many women could relate to the slights described on the witness stand, like men interrupting women in meetings or assuming they were too preoccupied for a big role because they had children.

Ellen Pao vs. Silicon Valley, the New York Times actual reported story:

The decision handed Kleiner a sweeping victory in a case that had mesmerized Silicon Valley with its salacious details while simultaneously amplifying concerns about the lack of diversity in the technology industry.

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Her suit, filed in Superior Court here, claimed that Kleiner did not promote her because of her gender, that it retaliated against her for complaining, that it failed to prevent gender discrimination and that it fired her in 2012 for complaining.

The suit asked $16 million in compensatory damages plus punitive damages. Ms. Pao is now interim chief of the social media news site Reddit.

After the jurors rejected each of her four claims, they were found to be one vote short on a claim about her termination. For two hours, doubt reigned, the media unspooled possible outcomes and the jury went back to work. In the end, the problem seemed more juror confusion than anything else, and the claim went down with the others.

The jurors said in interviews they did not take on the role of “conscience of this community,” as one of Ms. Pao’s lawyers had urged in the closing arguments. They focused on the facts at hand, and concluded it was Ms. Pao’s own performance that held her back.

One juror, Steve Sammut, 62, said it was difficult coming to a verdict.

“We were split there for a while,” he said, adding that a key point was how Ms. Pao’s reviews at Kleiner deteriorated over time. He also said the witnesses for Kleiner, most of whom came from the firm, helped seal the case.

Some examples of the “subtle sexism” at Kleiner Perkins:

During the trial, numerous details emerged, including Mr. Doerr’s telling an investigator that Ms. Pao had a “female chip on her shoulder.” Chi-Hua Chien, a partner, said women should not be invited to a dinner with former Vice President Al Gore because they “kill the buzz.” A senior partner at the time, Ray Lane, joked to a junior partner that she should be “flattered” that a colleague showed up at her hotel room door wearing only a bathrobe. Another senior partner, Ted Schlein, seemed never to have heard of the exhortation of Sheryl Sandberg, a senior Facebook executive, that women should “sit at the table,” testifying, “I really don’t think it was a very big deal to us who sits at a table or who does not.”

Ha ha! Never heard of Sheryl Sandberg! $16 million worth of microagressions!

And then we have this:

One of the stranger points brought up in testimony was how Ms. Pao, before she was married, had dated a colleague for six months without ever realizing he was still living with his wife.

And this:

Ms. Pao is married to Alphonse Fletcher Jr., a Wall Street financier whose hedge fund is bankrupt. Pension funds are suing to recover their money amid accusations of fraud. Kleiner tried to insert Mr. Fletcher into the case, which would have raised questions about Ms. Pao’s motives in bringing suit, but Judge Kahn refused to allow it.

Mr. Fletcher did not attend the trial.

h/t: Steve Sailer

Posted by Charlotte Allen

American Association of University Women: Make science courses easier for us females

My latest blog post for the Independent Women’s Forum:

Maybe a lot of women don’t want to do this all day.

The report is grandiosely titled Solving the Equation: The Variables for Women’s Sucess in Computing and Engineering. But at least according to the AAUW’s press release, the report actually consists of the invariable same old same old.

It starts with this observation:

“More than ever before, girls are studying and excelling in science and mathematics. Yet the dramatic increase in girls’ educational achievements in scientific and mathematical subjects has not been matched by similar increases in the representation of women working as engineers and computing professionals. Just 12 percent of engineers are women, and the number of women in computing has fallen from 35 percent in 1990 to just 26 percent today.”

Could that be because, as scholarly studies have shown, women are more people-oriented, in contrast to men, who are more oriented toward things? Careers in science, which deals strictly in things and abstractions, may simply not appeal to many women, who may prefer to work as psychologists, anthropologists, and social workers instead of at a cubicle desk in Silicon Valley.

Nah, that would be the obvious answer. The AAUW perfers this answer:

“We all hold gender biases, shaped by stereotypes in the wider culture, that affect how we evaluate and treat one another. Several findings detailed in the report shed light on how these stereotypes and biases harm women in engineering and computing.

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“But employers aren’t the only ones making this mistake. Stereotypes and biases affect women’s beliefs about their own abilities and the choices they make about their own futures as well. Girls with stronger implicit biases linking math and science with boys spend less time studying math and are less likely to pursue a career in a STEM field.”

Posted by Charlotte Allen

“Your Wife Wants Me”: Feminist students outraged by billboard with a photo of a stove

My latest blog post for the Independent Women’s Forum:

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The ultimate indignity against women: a kitchen makeover

Feminist students at Siena College in Albany, N.Y., have been staging a protest. No, not against human trafficking or women being stoned to death by ISIS militants.

It’s a protest against a billboard near the college featuring a photo of a gleaming state-of-the-art kitchen. The billboard, posted by Teakwood Builders Inc., a local contractor, also contains the tagline “Your Wife Wants Me.”

Horrors!

“Some Siena students found the billboard to be sexist and offensive, so they gathered under the billboard in protest on Tuesday afternoon.

“They held signs that read ‘I prefer an office,’ ‘Men can make their own sandwiches,’ ‘Women left the kitchen decades ago,’ and ‘I can buy my own kitchen.’

“Siena student Delaney Rivers said in an e-mail ‘[The billboard] implies that men are the primary financial supporters of women and that women are materialistic and portrayed as having no other value outside of the kitchen. This is especially egregious towards students at our institution as many of us are working towards financial independence in hopes to have successful careers and equality in our relationships.’”

Posted by Charlotte Allen

Hands up, don’t clap! UK feminists decide applause is too stressful for delicate females

My latest blog post for the Independent Women’s Forum:

Wave those “jazz hands” instead.

Organizers of the U.K.’s National Union of Students’ Women’s Conference, held this year in Solihull, U.K. found that the idea of applauding a speech “triggers anxiety” for participants–because clapping makes noise, you know–so it told attendees to use “jazz hands”–waving one’s hand palm out with the fingers splayed–as a silent substitute.

And you thought that today’s feminists weren’t fragile flowers underneath all that fish-needs-a-bicycle stuff! Think again.

“Young student union activists have asked other conference delegates to wave with “jazz hands” instead of clapping or cheering speakers in case it ‘triggers anxiety’ among nervous members.

“Hundreds were asked to wave in silence because other people found “whooping” to be “super inaccessible.”

“The request was made at the National Union of Students’ annual Women’s Conference in Solihull, West Midlands, which started yesterday.

“NUS Women’s Campaign tweeted: ‘Whooping is fun for some, but can be super inaccessible for others, so please try not to whoop! Jazz hands work just as well.’

“They then followed that with: ‘Some delegates are requesting that we move to jazz hands rather than clapping, as it’s triggering anxiety. Please be mindful! #nuswomen15.'”

Posted by Charlotte Allen

FEMA thought police: No funds for GOP governors who deny “global warming”

My latest blog post for the Independent Women’s Forum:

No funds for you!

“Starting next year, the agency will approve disaster-preparedness funds only for states whose governors approve hazard-mitigation plans that address climate change.

“This may put several Republican governors who maintain that the Earth isn’t warming due to human activities, or prefer to take no action, in a political bind. Their position may block their states’ access to hundreds of millions of dollars in FEMA funds. In the last five years, the agency has awarded an average $1 billion a year in grants to states and territories for taking steps to mitigate the effects of disasters.

“‘If a state has a climate denier governor that doesn’t want to accept a plan, that would risk mitigation work not getting done because of politics,’ said Becky Hammer, an attorney with the Natural Resources Defense Council’s water program. ‘The governor would be increasing the risk to citizens in that state’ because of his climate beliefs.”

In other words: Next time around, elect a politically correct Democratic governor, citizens of Texas, Louisiana, North Carolina, and New Jersey. Or else.
Posted by Charlotte Allen

WaPo writer: Single motherhood is better for kids, because dads are a pain to deal with

My latest blog post for the Independent Women’s Forum:

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